Doesn't everyone..

Compare..

Me to you...you to him..him to them...them to us...

It's what we all do, right? Even if you don't choose to admit it...
And most people don't speak on it, but it's our minds that wonder why this person isn't like that person, or why we feel more comfortable confiding in one friend over the other. It's natural. I guess.

But what makes it more difficult is when you are dealing with someone of interest.. Someone you feel drawn to, but turned off by when it comes to some things that he/she doesn't do. But why? Maybe because the last one treated you a certain way, or the last relationship made you accustomed to certain kinds of behaviors.

For instance, if a woman were dating a guy that wasn't as affectionate as the last guy she dated..she would probably subconsciously compare his actions to those of another man. No, it's probably not right, because no 2 men are alike, but she just may think he's not that into her, given the fact that her mind (and body for that matter) is used to a certain 'kind' of feeling, a comfort if you will...she's not confused..she's simply doing what most of us do: building and basing limitations upon our past conceived notions.

What's worse is when these limitations affect us in a way that makes us stagnant in our thinking. When you're dating someone, you are getting to know that person, in an effort to see them for who they really are. How can that be if you are 'stuck' on past idealisms that, quite frankly, did not lead you to the successful relationship you probably were hoping for.

Comparing should be innocent. It should be merely a thought, and rarely ever spoken, (especially to a Sista..lol) Because the last thing you want is her to feel like you have your mind on any other lady but her :)

~Queen